yea… mommies can often be described paranoid… remember the day your little one fell down the bed?
or that day when he just refused to sleep the whole day? and the worst … when he screamed and shouted in his sleep and you have no clue what just went wrong. i have been through all of this. and trust me just like you i often turn into a paranoid mother. i want to do all things right for my kid which includes singing lullabys are 2 am in the night to pushing aside the bowl of dal-rice and mashing the strawberries for his lunch. its not difficult being a mommy but its not easy being a mother in a world where every second person around you is either trying to advice you on how to raise your own flesh n blood or telling tales of how they did the raising and how well it worked for them.. secretly advising you to do the same they did.
all i ever want to tell such people is to mind their own business… had my son been a cattle i would have listened to you and did exactly the same but he is my baby… my tiny little part who i have known from the time he breathed inside me.
it scares me too when he makes weird noises while breathing… it scares me when he doesnt want to play with his toys but lay down next to me with his head all cushioned in my arm and just play with my hand n fingers… it scares me when he is trying to walk on his two tiny paws all shaky and unbalanced… it scares me when he sneezes in the middle of the night… it scares me when he refuses to pass waste in the morning.
mothers have so much to worry about , dont u agree? what has scared you the most? her fall? his low digestion? her fingers always tucked in her mouth? his constant running around the house?
her toothless smile even after a year? his weight gain???
there are hundreds of things that mothers think every day every moment… can we do anything about it? NO
can we keep calm and just sleep for a night? NO
should we get some experts and let him talk to our child?? NO
these are the aching lows and the happy highs of motherhood which should be cherished and not to be worried about. paranoia is a part and parcel of being a mom… my mom still is at the age of 57 and i believe she still will be worried about me and my needs till she can remember my name.
its like one of those banyan trees in our granny’s backyard that keeps on growing new branches every year. the main trunk vanishes in a few years yet the branches keep growing around it and builds a new trunk. the branches keep growing and builds a new tree upon the same tree. the circle of life gets a re-birth.
share your views if you feel the same as i do, if you too are a happy to be paranoid mother.
i wanted to write a post like this for very long.. there have been certain very good products that i have used and found it to be very helpful all along these 10 months…
yea.. it has been 10 months of motherhood already. times flies like it was just yesterday when i rushed to the hospital and told her i need to deliver him right away… it was just yesterday when he first stood up on his wiggly tiny feet and climbed up the sofa on his own. PG and i often joke he was a chimpanzee in his last birth since he can climb anywhere and everywhere with little space or no steps at all! i wonder how he makes the strategies on ‘how to climb’ .
my brother gifted me this mat. numerical on one side and a beautiful sunny picture on the other… its as huge as our regular carpets at home. plastic coated its good for those ‘only underwear’ play time, helpful for cold days, and the thickness is good enough to keep him from hurting his head if he falls right over!
this is a pic from some 3 months back… when my son was too tiny…
actually he is always going to be tiny for us. my small little baby who i dont want to grow up so fast.. so fast that it makes me miss his rolls and turns and his frequent tries to climb upon us.
one more product i can vouch for its quality is this johnsons mosquito repellant. great buy for any age. non greazy and think water like density. the made in india johnsons is a complete NO-NO in my list.
if you are an avid shopper and often go to local drug stores to see whats new… you may bump into sudden unannounced freebies and discounts. found this at perfect mother store last month. chicco is my fave brand when it comes to my son s hygiene.
though this product is only a waste of money for me. you can invest some great bucks in this product while your little one is still a new born. my son has outgrown all the stages. he may surprise us any day by running around the house freely now. aaahhaaa cant imagine what a great day it would be for me and for PG and everyone who jumped with joy when he first crawled. somewhere between 7 to 10 grands this is a great product to buy. you may search for better deals online.
talking of chicco.. all these are great buys too… in case you want any leave a mail…
now for some good news… i am so meeting my girls tomorrow for a quick meet and high tea. i have been looking forward to meet all of them and the kids of course. a few of them are younger to D and a few elder to him. will post some pics. a ME-TIME guaranteed day!
cheers to motherhood n a happy healthy life. 🙂
its a sad state of mind that writes this… my son is growing and that makes him leave my territory and explore the other corners in the home. he has learned to walk on his fours. he runs away to other rooms and into the kitchen.. picks up stuff and wants to hold everything in his hands and explore. i understand his level of curiosity and i am very much alright with his happy shouts when he discovers something new even if its just a flowing tap… but its a sad moment too because my little guy doesn’t play in my arms anymore. the kids are growing up so fast and i realize i need to capture and live in every moment of his growing stage. these days are never going to come back. he is never going to be the new born who used to fit into my palm and an arm. he is not the infant anymore who used to sleep all day long. he is not that little one who could only turn his sides…
he is now growing up. we recently got this mee mee walker for him. in my fave colors red and white.
with the white block lock… i can be assured the kid is safe near the stairs too and this mee mee walker can be turned into a swing like the see saw type rocker… my son loves it so much.
easy to clean and maintain… easy on the weight to carry it in the parking for a free run.
initially it can be very difficult to get your kids in the walker… they feel like they have been tied and unable to move around, my experience says let them feel the walker/stroller/baby car for a few days. keep it by the sofa or dining table just like any other furniture you have. and let them touch it or knock it over or even just stare at it. once they know this piece of furniture is going to stay at home they will get friendly with it and try playing with it. slowly after a while put them inside and see how they react. dont give up if your kid doesnt like it. a few days and a few trys later he will love it and want to jump into it once they see it.
all you need is patience…
difficult for a new mom but trust me… after a few months you will develop it naturally. raising a kid is not difficult because its more fun. you get to see a life grow and create memories that only you can re-live once they grow up and get on with their lives.
we are just back from a weekend getaway… will post a few pics soonish.. traveling with an infant can be so easy and so much fun..