Archive | June 2015

motherhood and love

hi there,
one of the benefits motherhood has is you suddenly get some worldly wisdom and you can blabber on any topic ! just anything.
i have been doing that blah blah blah stuff here for two years now and now writing for more people and answering more wisdom on mails too…

my new space is on worldofmoms.com

here is the link to it:

worldofmoms.com/blog

Whether you are a working mother or a stay at home mom, whether you belong to a joint family or a nuclear one, and even if you are a desi mom living in the west or you’re living in a tiny remote place and peeping in the outside world via internet… we all have one thing in common. MOTHERHOOD. The feeling of motherhood and being ‘that one’ who blew up that flat tummy never to be perfectly flat again and yet happy to have it. Motherhood is when you are so f-ing tired that you only realize you were sleeping on a piece of cardboard jigsaw and a crayon under your pillow all night long after you wake up. The crayon broke into three because of the massive weight; not of your head but of the tensions and worries you slept with. The crayon breaks into several pieces if you are a mom to a kid who has fever that night or whose kid has an important exam next day. Still, this princess did not realize the pea for those seven-eight hours. Simply saying because, this princess left the kingdom when motherhood struck her in the heart.

Not every one learns to be a perfect parent unless you had a litter of younger siblings running under your nose while growing up. With the rise of nuclear families (such a typical political dialogue this is) many parents themselves do not have a sibling. They are either foster or cousins. I was the younger one in my family so didn’t learn anything… I was more bossed around by elder sibling. Some moms like me learn about motherhood only after making a few dozen mistakes. A handful of those are made when the baby is still a newborn. I remember them all and regret them so. Having said that, my second child (if I ever have the patience to have any or plan to raise someone else’s kid) will never see the same light as my first child even if I am more near to the perfect mother figure the second time.

pic courtesy:  www.lilportraits.com

pic courtesy:
www.lilportraits.com

next post shall be on queries and answering your weirdest questions, some i already have saved in my email and i have answered most of you guys via my official id… info@awomansays.com
plz feel free to write anything. would love to have an inbox full of motherly love.

cheers!
love,
Kunj 🙂

date with daddy!

seriously, we did go on a dual date with dad!
D’s dad that is.
i so badly needed a break and a friend of PG was hosting a destination wedding at Daman, although i would not have mind doing the baby and daddy work and the heap load of traveling work myself but its always such a pleasure when the husband decides to take over!
i relaxed and he took care of the kiddo and his food tantrums.
he was teething with side tooth sprouting out and his time had a major diarrhea issue, daddy decided to make a fun day for all of us.
specially for this mommy who, rather than enjoying the wedding was busy changing soiled diapers and managing kid friendly food in between getting dressed up for an indian wedding.

here i was on saturday morning after the wedding got over late friday night!!

mommy's dirty mess!!

mommy’s dirty mess!!

then came our superhero to the rescue, of course with lots of back up help by mumma. but i am glad this happened!
my son loves spending time with his father, he calls my husband “papai” .. sounds a lot like popoye! and we love it…
i got the bag ready and shoo-ed them out of the room. turned on the tv to a cute bollywood film and ordered in some food to relax myself.
our staycation for the weekend was at a resort called sandy resort at nani daman. it had a beautiful pool and my husband was super excited from the moment he saw it on the internet before we drove our way there early morning. he knew our little dolphin would love to go splash and have fun there.
so leaving me and my mess in the room… began the date with daddy.
they left to the pool straight away!

daddy-mode ON!

daddy-mode ON!

and began the splish splash n more fun around the pool…

the anchors of my life

the anchors of my life

there were a lot of words and tiny talks exchanged. i really dont know if they understand each other that well.. but i know them both in and out. i know daddy gets less time to spend with his growing toddler. but once in a while PG comes home early, calls me when he is on his way home to get the little hunk ready and off they go on a drive or just the play area and rides nearby.
its always so easy for a son to connect with his dad.. they are always alike. they not only share the same surname but even the same family legacy… the same habits, the same profession at times. the same home from childhood and in many cases the same state of mind. they think alike. they often have same choice of favorite sports and food… they share hereditary pros and cons, they often have the same sharpness on their faces. growing up they share the same car, the same house and same family members till they depart.

i see my dad look like my grandpa these days.. i see my dad in my brother and i see my brother in my nephew.. this is weird but this is how love travels… in family. and stays in family.
i share a strong liking for daughters but they soon get married and become someone else by molding into the husband’s family. its true for most of the indian households.
i love this ” look alike, feel alike, talk alike, do alike” stuff in fathers and sons… it always keeps the intimacy alive through generations.

bonding

bonding

thanks you daddyscapes for the perfect tee. it just felt like a perfect pre- father’s day celebration for us. although our family doesn’t believe in such fathers and mothers and whatever day. but its being talked about everywhere and it won;t really harm to mention this that we don’t need a special day to celebrate our love for each other.
here they are, giving a much needed break to me and celebrating the SR.JR combo!

meet the daddy

meet the daddy

the duo went for mini train rides (pic not available) and bought balloons and sweet corn (yes, a plate of sweet corn is a fancy meal for my son) and the day ended with fries-ketchup-milkshake

nom-nom fave meal

nom-nom fave meal

i was so touched by the love and bonding they share, i wanted to hug them both tight and never let it go! thank you , wordpress. u helped me preserve this in form of a blog. love these two to the moon an back.

planning another trip in july on the same ground rules: one day for mommy to relax, another for daddy, and one day to have fun as a family. sounds so perfect. and this time i am gonna get all my tanning creams and beach hat packed on time! yay!
what are your perfect daddy-date plans? do mention in the comments below.

cheers,
lots of love
Kunj