getting on the desk to work with a 6 hour sleep and 18 hour home chores/school going, birthday parties to attend, grocery shopping and playing peekaboo with the kid is difficult! as of today and this very minute i have only two people to thank to… my maid, and my maid !!! i have two maids who do the basic work at home while i look after my kid, cook, and manage the home affairs! i may not be doing all that hard work they do but i certainly get the feel of all those joint pains and aches and puffed eye bags when its 1am , thats exactly when my little one sleeps,
i put him to bed when its 10 30, but he has his own clock to follow and he shit never listens to mumma dearest!
at that time in the night, when even my husband has turned his side and snoring an IPL tune in his sleep i stretch my hands into the bedside drawer. comes to help, a friend indeed.
oriflame and mustang are two friends who help me in my mid night crisis! the feet are aching, there are blisters from the sandpit and water fun-fight! the feet smell, look lifeless, turn black under the toe and heels!
this cream is smooth, smells beautiful and has very non-greasy easy to apply texture. the mustang black n pink toe socks are a perfect match! that 1am or 4am friend, is THIS ONE!
THANK YOU DEAR TEAM MUSTANG for sending them right on time.
i have used a few other brands when it comes to keeping my feet smooth n pretty, who has the time for pedicures with a two year old monster running around? i love mustang the most. fyi, i am sad i dont have pretty prints that can be worn to a comic con! love my son’s pin stripe and avengers mustang babies.
but they come in fab colors 🙂 high five~
my little cherub in his avengers mustang and fat mommy legs/thighs/feet in pop green mustang women’s range.
please avoid the footwear, they are tacky and old fashioned but the most comfiest ones when you have a 3 kg mother bag on one arm and a 12 kg kid on the other arm asking questions that you have answered like 10 times in the past 2 minutes!
we went on a play date where his highness of the handsome colony rocked his attire,
while i the queen of hopelessly freaked out mothers wore the green ones, again turning into a good friend and helping out to avoid slipping on watermelon juice he spilled, and wet grass patch he was jumping on and i picked him up from there thrice! thank you green the kind! no more the color of lier as jim parsons HOME, no more the color of envy. the color of a good friend it is now! A FRIEND INDEED
and now to talk about my
FAVE ONE OF ALL,
THE bright neon pink and sparkling white with the best comfort layer
pic after two hours of workout
the double layering of the cotton threads is not just in the packing, they stay the same and shock resistant even after workouts, this is my fave one to go to gym with. comfort, doesnt let the heel of the shoes to hurt you and beautifully stylish to wear and flaunt!
yes, i flaunt! when i have no abs , arms or legs to show off, i have these to help me do some flaunting!!
mustang at rescue for the blob mom!
they gel perfectly with my white and pink addidas workout shoes! match point!! A FRIEND INDEED
my gym has this rude… like REALLY rude machine where you keep your feet up 60 degrees and do abs! front- side- side
the tyres at the tummy dont like it, but the pretty pink mustang keeps company! thank you love!
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I met him first on 6th March, I am sure he won’t have remembered the date until he reads this post. It’s been some 4 years since we are together and we already have a son turning 2 soon… that means we had a little more than 2 years to enjoy our relationship and being together before parenthood dipped us in pee/potty/tears/sleeplessness disorder.
not that I demand more but I like every couple who are still enjoying the non-parents phase or are parents but so deep in love they don’t stop woo-ING each other. I love the word LOVE itself. I love the idea of going on dates, surprising each other, romantic beach walks, going on second honeymoon etc… basically I love everything that all those silly Bollywood romantic flicks show. I love watching all those stupid english romantic movies for the same reason. maybe that’s the reason they are called chick-flicks. this chick digs all that cuteness and more.
sadly my husband Mr.P is no where in the vicinity of the aura of the word romance.
he plucked these for me once; a treasure i ate it all!
these are small things that matter, getting what you wish for. but its not too easy for other filmy things:
i have to say ‘i love you’ to him twice before he replies a ‘me too’ ; he needs to get drunk to buy a birthday card for me, something I wish happened everyday sans the alcohol but it never happens. he is everything that I had NEVER dreamt of.
ya, its saddening and heart breaking. we have no selfies together, he hates being photographed. he hates taking pictures so i have no pics of myself against beautiful backdrops. if he is forced to take a picture they would turn out so bad that i have to delete them forever, even from the drop box! and i am not just exaggerating my lovely friend, this is exactly how he is. we haven’t celebrated a valentine day. Maybe he would have taken me on a dinner once. nothing so special that i remember of. nothing happened this year too.
Every year on my anniversary I think of reasons why i chose him.
and this is why i still love the father of my only child…
we need no valentine day celebration because everytime i ask for, he takes me all way to the highway to my favorite coffee shop after dinner for that hot cup of expresso. the only place in the entire town i love coffee. he knows that’s the only place i will have a coffee, whether tired or not we always go that only place!
we need no romantic date nights because he often accompanies me those super flop movies and sits through the end just because i wanted to go watch it. even after 4 years our choices of movies are different. i let him go with his guy friends for movies of his choice and he sits through a 2hour film when I want to watch one. He never says it but I know he could have said no and I could have gone with my girlfriends but this way he gets to be with me for 2 hours and just hold my hand because in our daily lives we both have busy schedules.
we need no valentine days because we are too perfect for each other and we dont need any special day to tell each other how we feel,
on days when our son is unwell and i am worried and sleepless and tired and everything is going wrong as a mother, he holds my hand and strokes my hair. and i know he wants to say everything will be alright, we are in this together, worry not. these are gestures unsaid. gestures that remind me of who i am married to is one of the most perfect person ever. sometimes you need no words or date nights or gifts to express what you feel. and after all these years i prefer it this way. in silence- said through his eyes!
ti need no one to sing me songs,… although i really want him to do it one day!
i need no one to bring me fancy gifts, his debit card is enough… hehaheehee
i need no one to write me letters and bring me flowers, my home is already a mess, where will i store them !!! do u have a 2 year old too??? yes, u know what i am saying then. no matter how big a house; a kid leaves no space undiscovered!
here’s to 4 years of togetherness and 4*365 days of valentines 🙂
Whenever the weekend is here all I demand is some more sleep, alas! i am a mom and asking for such a luxury is asking thy lover to fetch some stars from the sky in a Shakespeare way!
my son turned 23 months old on Monday, he runs like he is some Tarzan on his way to save the jungle animals from beasts, always running around and jumping! he has learned to talk a lot, a lottttttt !! that makes my ears tired and he is never tired of running around, jumping around, getting curious, talking, asking questions, learning new stuff… no matter what.
so i opened some sites and did a little research, tried to read what scientists and experienced mothers do to put their kids to either sleep early or at least sleep a little more than usual. and here i was trying all of them one by one. after lots of experiments, here are my fool-proof or as you say, tried-tested-successful tips on putting your kids to sleep. no need to rug-mug through various sites yourself! all these seriously work my dear lady!
1. going bananas:
some kids may be fussy eaters but a banana before going to sleep or as a last meal may help the kids feel full and sleep comes easy with the stomach full. eat a little more at a wedding party and you will feel like dozing off at the sofa yourself. bananas are filled with carbs and potassium and often helps kids with energy during the day and with sleep at night. if your kids are allergic to bananas or allergic to idea of having fruits as a meal in itself you may want to skip this idea and move to tip no. 2
we made this banana strawberry choco chip snowman at school
2. doodh doodh doodh … piyo glass full doodh!
warm milk before going to sleep.
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its no secret, milk helps the kid sleep better. be it mother’s feed or a bottle of warm milk. make milk time more fun with a story-telling or just letting the child sit on your lap. many mothers have a dedicated song for milk time and many kids have a favorite cartoon they watch while having milk. I certainly am against kids watching tv before going to bed but some parents have no choice. the images of their last activity stays with the kid all night and i have a sit on my lap and let me call you sweet names kind of strategy. i always encourage my child with words like ‘i am so proud of you D, i love you my dearest, mumma’s so happy she has you with her blah blah blah…’ of course i mean all of this. say what’s true, say what you mean, say something that makes your kid feel how honest you are for your feelings for them. it always work keeping the kids happy and calm. a calm mind means dozing off on time.
3. Fire on the mountain, run run RUN
let the kid get involved in lots of physical activity in the evening. younger kids may want to crawl or turn around, toddlers may like to run and play.
give them a playground and let them get tired
search for playgrounds or gardens around your residence. if you are a working mom and find little time to take the kid to play in the evenings, ask someone to help you get his little feet moving. take the kid to play dates and malls at nights after you come home on fridays where there are special kids zone areas to play.
D loves his ‘riding the cycle’ time
remember, a/any fruit before their play-time always helps keep the kid’s metabolism intact. a healthy diet will make them tired and not weak. weakness ain’t a good aunt to visit to.
4. get them to think
yes, make the kids think a lot. ask them to guess things under some boxes, give them a puzzle or even a book to read if your kid loves to read before sleeping. let them use up the juice in the brains and they will want to ditch everything and hug the pillow.
apparently, lots of kid docs say that the child has lots of activities going on in his brains which make them mentally active all the time. they tend to think more then adults do. and getting them involved in something where they have to think and apply logic may make them feel tired.
shape and color activity at PEEK-A-BOO
adults too like to solve some crosswords and sudoku at night, read something thats heavy on the brains or just watch a film. extracting so much from the surrounding and only letting her/his brain do all the work will create the ‘lets hit the bed now’ feeling. my curious little kitten always blabbers the most just before his bedtime and this mumma lets him drain all that energy and curiousness, it has helped me a dozen times already!
5. cranberry and grapes
nope, i am not suggesting alcohol but cranberries and grapes have juices that helps calm the mind. a glass of cranberry tart juice or a string of grapes for a mid night snack always helps relax the mind. having it in the morning is very healthy but certainly not for adults who want to rush to work rather than feel relaxed early morning.
cranberry has melatonin, which is a hormone that regulates sleep or sleep patterns. cranberry flavored juices are often famous to be taken along with alcohol for adults. it releases all your stress and creates a calmness.
giving some harmless cranberries and fresh grapes from the market will help your kids too. also its a good substitute for sugar just in case you are not giving any other form of raw or processed sugar in your kid’s meals.
you know how sugar works! ask all those bars of chocolates and those desserts you had during pregnancy to feel better.
these are a few of his favorite things
6. press it warm
its a super tried and tested and recommended tip from my MIL; she says keeping some cloth, a soft toy or anything that’s bulky but not heavy against the child’s chest always help them sleep 60 to 90 minutes longer! wow! this sounds super hai na ? i tried inculcating a plush toy habit for my son, he preferred keeping a soft Dohar. this is his favorite blue one.
D in his cradle
this works for a lot of kids, it did for my husband and a neighbor’s kid and my kid any maybe your kid too. i tried to look around for those cutsie elephant soft toy pillow but didn’t find it here. contact me on email@example.com in case you have those and would like to share/sale it to me please. so the theory says, anything that presses against the kid’s chest that’s not heavy in weight but feels warm and soft will replace the mother’s womb or her bosom and keep the kid emotionally happy and secured. this directly affects the sleep pattern and the kid shall sleep 90 mins longer. have tried this myself. the short cap nap in the noon turned into a nice 3 hour long sleep time. i am very happy with him waking up fresh and happy in the evening.
7. you and I
take a short walk with your kid in the morning , or just spend some lovely cuddle time at night,
marching and giggling, D and mommy
let the kid feel happy before going to bed. the child when happy has a calm mind. a mind with no heartbreaks or sadness has the power to feel more relaxed compared to that which isn’t. let the kid feel loved and pampered. play on the bed and kiss him goodnight, make the kid feel specially taken care of and loved. you will see the magic happening when the kid sleeps peacefully and for a longer time. you will see the kid smile at you when you see him first thing in the morning. [ no kidding with all the kids i just mentioned] :p
love has no substitute
the day my kid sleeps happy and loved he sleeps for an hour more than usual. yelling at your kids to sleep or getting angry because the child wants to jump a little more on the bed will not only sleep a little less but even his sleeping patterns and his dreams are not weighing on a healthier side of the happiness scale. you don’t like to be yelled at, and nor do they!
8. bathe and clean
a tried tested recommended and favored by all mothers across the world. now that summer is approaching, a warm bath before bed and a lotion massage will do the trick. let the kid feel fresh and light and clean and happy and tidy and relaxed! the pretty smell of the lotion will also make you want to cuddle next to the kid.
a few kisses and a fresh nightsuit, a bed time story or a hymn, do whatever favors you both and the kid will sleep with a smile without creating any fuss.
“The only love that I really believe in is a mother’s love for her children.”
― Karl Lagerfeld
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O yes, you read it right, its #CaptainAmerica who visited us some days back and we planned to keep them with us.
Here is what happened… since Summer is approaching and for true amdavadis its already here. there is no autumn here… how I wish there was and with the autumn season comes those picnic-y days. anyways, I approached Mustang socks to help us with some new fresh summer collection i kept on drooling on their instagram account. if you are following me on instagram, u shall see me following them too. they have this whole cotton avengers range in kids and bright neon colored ones for women I so wanted to try. The mustang team was kind enough to send me lots of them to try and experience the feel myself.
#captainamerica watches nani teri morni
Here we are, D and me on a school date with #captainamerica from Mustang.
early morning I readied him with a pair of shorts and tee. He seemed happy to be finally out of that stuffy packaging and onto some feet.
little kangaroos shorts + avengers from mustang
sad to say our car broke down that morning and even though avengers the team could fly, he was all alone that day and in Ahmedabad where he could not find the way to our school… so we took him on an auto ride too…
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when we reached school D took him at this wooden board and brushed some brains… did #captainamerica learn anything here?? well, we tried to :
all play and no work 🙂
the date had just began, we thought it would be nice for him for learn some songs and do some craft too-
D makes a monkey hat
after some snack time, D took some real advantage of #captainamerica being with us that day, he asked the man with mask to find some brushes and tools form beneath the art-work fame wall at school. the big guy helped my small guy.
these socks are so soft and pure cotton, neither they slip off nor feel itchy. a lot of mix cotton socks found in the market these days make the kid’s feet perspire and itchy if the kid is allergic to un-pure fabrics.
I found Mustang to be of excellent quality and so soft that no matter how much the kid runs around in them (trust me, my tarzan runs like no other kid all day long in them) they don’t let perspiration stay on the feet. this eventually makes them no-slip socks and all day protection.
we can ask him to help … hai na?
by the end of class he still wasn’t dirty enough, and my kid made sure not to spare him of some school dust and dirt at the sand pit. i love this area the most in his school… its of the perfect height and D loves to play in it.
at the site
the entire range of avengers is available at all leading kid’s store and a few websites too… we have loved the stripes and spongebob theme all winter. the avengers in summer would be perfect. i simply love the colors and print. they do not shed colors upon washing and the fit is so perfect. right on the packaging is also a small table of what size socks would fit kids at which age. quite a smart thing if I am confused for the length which happened once while I was shopping at Mahindra’s mom and me… after seeing each size for 10 minutes there i still could not decide which size to buy. Mustang packs solves the case right at the spot. D is 22 months old. I use the 2 year size for him since he has bigggg feet.
mustang socks- #captainamerica
the date didn’t end here, #captainamerica slept at the feet and woke up to hear some rhymes and songs on mumma’s mobile; yes, sad and true my phone has become a wreck… need a new cam just for clicking pics for posts. anyone interested in sponsoring one ??
still looking good at end of day !
we took some of our fave Mustang socks even to the zoo. Mumma planned a red and white outfit for the pre valentines day date to the zoo with all classmates. well, the trip to the zoo was on 13th. and we wanted to dress up just perfect!
Thank you the entire team of Mustang socks for the wonderful treat. we still have more socks to try on and go to dates on with Mumma. looking forward to trying some spiderman socks now. spiderman is also mumma’s favorite no!!
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D is turning two soon and i have seen him much more mature than a 2 year old should be like. well, all moms want to believe her kid is a unique one and i am no different.
He has taught me to forgive, forget and move on. he has been pushed and pulled and pricked and teased by kids his age and even their moms… what i see is, he plays with the same kids a few days later. this really surprises me about him. he has been taunted and even scolded by mothers of other kids for being a menace he is (and trust me, i am so proud of his naughtiness.. aren’t boys supposed to naughty nosy aunty??) yet he talks and smiles at those moms and aunties like they only mean good for him.
feeding the squirrels
if i say for myself or on your behalf too- we have been misunderstood, misinterpreted, scolded, mocked at, pushed , pulled, tricked, pinched… a lot of this happens with the kids too and still they behave like the world is too beautiful a place to keep all these things in mind and lose all those precious minutes/hours/days in which he can play and enjoy, laugh and jump, doze off after play or even show his love for the kind human race and mute animals. my son taught me how selfish was i to keep all the pain and hurt in my heart and mind all through last year. i had best friends who didnt call me for their birthday parties and weddings, a really really close friend never told me she got a job and even left it, it hurts when your oldie besties you shared cuppa tea with everyday at college are far from you emotionally. initially when i get hurt i try to keep mum about it, then talk about it eventually but they refrain to talk because they want their peace and space. i was once very hurt when my best friend didnt pick up my calls on her birthday and didnt call me on mine just 3 days later.
nothing has to be black or white or gray even
the same has happened with my kid.. some of our very closest relatives haven’t called him on his birthday to wish, not that he understands anything yet but he simply doesn’t care. i have been seriously very angry and upset about some people, some events and incidents in this past year and after all that i learned from my son i free myself from all that anguish and anger, pain and hurt… TODAY ITSELF
I FREE MYSELF from all the anger i have for her, for regretting not telling my parents how much i have learned from them and how better a person i am because of them. i free myself from all those memos of guilt when i didn’t behave like a good mom should be, when i shouted at my child because i couldn’t cope up with my own emotional upheavals. because i could not handle him for the 22 month old that he is.
let there be light
let it all go… let me just live the way D does- carefree, loving, and forgiving! i want to embrace the world and its beautiful things. i want to tell my loves ones and my best friends what they mean to me. my son has taught me a lot more than what just motherhood should be like. he helps me to be a better person every day. i hope some day he reads this and realizes being a parent is not as easy as being a child is. and “thank you my son” for you showed me what self help books don’t. i shall try to be like you and be a good example for who you should be like when you become a parent yourself. (wow! ain’t i talking about something way too far for ??)
“heal the world, make it a better place… for you and for me and the entire human race!”
my son is a big time ice cream fan.. he wasn’t one until a few months back. he hated it last year, then around christmas a tiny elf came to our room one night and added two sweet tooth in his jaws… it took us a week to see them sprouting out. they are still tiny and can only be seen when he laughs out loud showing all those gummies. i like to believe its those tiny square ones that have inculcated the love for ice cream in him. well, every mom is a story teller and so am i 🙂
i have had ice cream all my pregnancy days and cannot blame my little one if he demands one too… ofcourse he is the obedient one out of us two who never asked for it at a silly odd hour until now. but i was not happy when a single scoop of flavored milk in pretty colors frozen to perfection landed into runny nose and sleepless coughing nights. i also hate giving him meds.
so i started thinking on what new i can do…
“all natural yogurt popsicles” :
1 bowl yogurt (preferably made at home)
1 bowl fresh strawberries and grapes
1 spoon sugar
1 bag of patience
and some sprinkles (optional- i used chocolate chips)
take a bowl of yogurt and tie it in a soft cotton cloth, hang it lose somewhere to drain out the excess water.
while the hung curd gets done, make a syrup of strawberries , grapes and sugar (only 1 spoon of sugar is enough since fresh berries n grapes are always sweet).
pour it over the hung curd and use a beater to mix it well. (i use a all in one beater)
add chocolate chips or sprinklers or anything you wish to; pour it into Popsicle cans and freeze them. an hour later pull them out and let the kid get dirty enjoying them.
add sprinkles or chocolate chips
you can also add in it tiny pieces of fruits or home made jelly or just crushed rice flakes- as it pleases your kid. sorry my phone had been hijacked and now its almost broken and cannot deliver good pictures , i missed out on clicking a good pic of my son enjoying his yogurt ice cream but you may check my instagram account – @awomansays and even account.
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re-useable popsicle cans
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my son came just when the new financial year started last year… its been one full year since then and so much has happened. so much usually happens in the initial year of a new born and then after it slows down and you get back on track to your old life and try to pick up from where you left before you had the kid … nice thought but again ; by the time u go and try to pick up things from where u left you are either too drained from all that mommy work you have done all these years or you are just too lost and all grown up and nothing fits in . i visited the radio station a few days back as a guest and recorded a 2 minute capsule for mother’s day.. i just wasn’t excited to see the studio, the console the mike and the wonderful always pumping energy in the orator- a playlist. nothing attracted me. which was quite a shock initially. but now i have grown out of the radio love i had worked for 5 years and my only world revolved around my son.
a lot has changed in this year. my romance with PG depends on what time D falls asleep in his crib rather then when we want it to happen. our sunday dinner dates have changed to ‘taking D out to a play area and toyrides gaming’ date. i am always into loose outfits even after a year because i feel D may need breastfeeding anytime. he is in his last stage of weaning but still the mother in me wants him to take feeds as long as he wants… psychology studies says a kid can take feeding until he is 5 years old and a mother should not be ashamed to do so… umm… yes; i am kinda ready but certainly not for 5 years. i am ready to take the challenge and test myself for the whole of this year! i plan to breastfeed D till he 18-19 months old and i am not ashamed to talk about it on a public front. why should i ?? its not a crime, is it? i am infact helping my kid grow up on the most nutritious food available for him and i am proud of the fact that i can BREASTFEED, unlike a lot of women i know who has hardly done do for a month or just until the child starts weaning because of their medical issues or career opportunities they don’t want to miss just because they have a child.
a lot has changed over the year. i know not what movies release every friday until and unless i get to peek into the sunday reviews section in the newspaper and that is only possible if he is playing away somewhere or sleeping that i get the chance to read through the daily rug-mug and headlines. but i do know the complete lyrics of atleast 30 odd poems/nursery rhymes. yes its true for all mothers across the country and around the globe. they suddenly fall in love with all animated cartoons and movies and seem to enjoy and understand it just as much as the kids do.
a lot has changed over the last year. i can now change a diaper and wipe a smelly bum at 1 30am. i can now cook 3 different meals at the same time while keeping one eye on the tv serial and another on my son playing with his piano loud and clear and yet smile at the joke jethalal cracks and perfectly add in the masala to the curry. i am no doubt the super mom in my life. the only thing i cannot do is fly up in the sky! who even wants to fly if they live in a polluted stuffy and hot environ of Ahmedabad??
yea. so to conclude. i am my own supermom. and i can clean a stain on the rug and differentiate between the yellow color on the bedspread being mango or potty! i was not born a genius but the moment i delivered in that labor room last year enlightened me with sudden and more wisdom than i ever thought i could have.
a lot more has changed since a year but i take rest now and end this blog for i wish to make sure he has his food right and he sleeps right and there is a good burp right before he dozes off for a few hours.
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