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HOW TO : put your kids to bed

Whenever the weekend is here all I demand is some more sleep, alas! i am a mom and asking for such a luxury is asking thy lover to fetch some stars from the sky in a Shakespeare way!
my son turned 23 months old on Monday, he runs like he is some Tarzan on his way to save the jungle animals from beasts, always running around and jumping! he has learned to talk a lot, a lottttttt !! that makes my ears tired and he is never tired of running around, jumping around, getting curious, talking, asking questions, learning new stuff… no matter what.
so i opened some sites and did a little research, tried to read what scientists and experienced mothers do to put their kids to either sleep early or at least sleep a little more than usual. and here i was trying all of them one by one. after lots of experiments, here are my fool-proof or as you say, tried-tested-successful tips on putting your kids to sleep. no need to rug-mug through various sites yourself! all these seriously work my dear lady!

1. going bananas:

some kids may be fussy eaters but a banana before going to sleep or as a last meal may help the kids feel full and sleep comes easy with the stomach full. eat a little more at a wedding party and you will feel like dozing off at the sofa yourself. bananas are filled with carbs and potassium and often helps kids with energy during the day and with sleep at night. if your kids are allergic to bananas or allergic to idea of having fruits as a meal in itself you may want to skip this idea and move to tip no. 2

we made this banana strawberry choco chip snowman at school

we made this banana strawberry choco chip snowman at school

2. doodh doodh doodh … piyo glass full doodh!

warm milk before going to sleep.

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its no secret, milk helps the kid sleep better. be it mother’s feed or a bottle of warm milk. make milk time more fun with a story-telling or just letting the child sit on your lap. many mothers have a dedicated song for milk time and many kids have a favorite cartoon they watch while having milk. I certainly am against kids watching tv before going to bed but some parents have no choice. the images of their last activity stays with the kid all night and i have a sit on my lap and let me call you sweet names kind of strategy. i always encourage my child with words like ‘i am so proud of you D, i love you my dearest, mumma’s so happy she has you with her blah blah blah…’ of course i mean all of this. say what’s true, say what you mean, say something that makes your kid feel how honest you are for your feelings for them. it always work keeping the kids happy and calm. a calm mind means dozing off on time.

3. Fire on the mountain, run run RUN

let the kid get involved in lots of physical activity in the evening. younger kids may want to crawl or turn around, toddlers may like to run and play.

give them a playground and let them get tired

give them a playground and let them get tired

search for playgrounds or gardens around your residence. if you are a working mom and find little time to take the kid to play in the evenings, ask someone to help you get his little feet moving. take the kid to play dates and malls at nights after you come home on fridays where there are special kids zone areas to play.

D loves his 'riding the cycle' time

D loves his ‘riding the cycle’ time

remember, a/any fruit before their play-time always helps keep the kid’s metabolism intact. a healthy diet will make them tired and not weak. weakness ain’t a good aunt to visit to.

4. get them to think

yes, make the kids think a lot. ask them to guess things under some boxes, give them a puzzle or even a book to read if your kid loves to read before sleeping. let them use up the juice in the brains and they will want to ditch everything and hug the pillow.
apparently, lots of kid docs say that the child has lots of activities going on in his brains which make them mentally active all the time. they tend to think more then adults do. and getting them involved in something where they have to think and apply logic may make them feel tired.

shape and color activity at PEEK-A-BOO

shape and color activity at PEEK-A-BOO

adults too like to solve some crosswords and sudoku at night, read something thats heavy on the brains or just watch a film. extracting so much from the surrounding and only letting her/his brain do all the work will create the ‘lets hit the bed now’ feeling. my curious little kitten always blabbers the most just before his bedtime and this mumma lets him drain all that energy and curiousness, it has helped me a dozen times already!

5. cranberry and grapes

nope, i am not suggesting alcohol but cranberries and grapes have juices that helps calm the mind. a glass of cranberry tart juice or a string of grapes for a mid night snack always helps relax the mind. having it in the morning is very healthy but certainly not for adults who want to rush to work rather than feel relaxed early morning.
cranberry has melatonin, which is a hormone that regulates sleep or sleep patterns. cranberry flavored juices are often famous to be taken along with alcohol for adults. it releases all your stress and creates a calmness.
giving some harmless cranberries and fresh grapes from the market will help your kids too. also its a good substitute for sugar just in case you are not giving any other form of raw or processed sugar in your kid’s meals.
you know how sugar works! ask all those bars of chocolates and those desserts you had during pregnancy to feel better.

these are a few of his favorite things

these are a few of his favorite things

6. press it warm

its a super tried and tested and recommended tip from my MIL; she says keeping some cloth, a soft toy or anything that’s bulky but not heavy against the child’s chest always help them sleep 60 to 90 minutes longer! wow! this sounds super hai na ? i tried inculcating a plush toy habit for my son, he preferred keeping a soft Dohar. this is his favorite blue one.

D in his cradle

D in his cradle

this works for a lot of kids, it did for my husband and a neighbor’s kid and my kid any maybe your kid too. i tried to look around for those cutsie elephant soft toy pillow but didn’t find it here. contact me on info@awomansays.com in case you have those and would like to share/sale it to me please. so the theory says, anything that presses against the kid’s chest that’s not heavy in weight but feels warm and soft will replace the mother’s womb or her bosom and keep the kid emotionally happy and secured. this directly affects the sleep pattern and the kid shall sleep 90 mins longer. have tried this myself. the short cap nap in the noon turned into a nice 3 hour long sleep time. i am very happy with him waking up fresh and happy in the evening.

7. you and I

take a short walk with your kid in the morning , or just spend some lovely cuddle time at night,

marching and giggling, D and mommy

marching and giggling, D and mommy

let the kid feel happy before going to bed. the child when happy has a calm mind. a mind with no heartbreaks or sadness has the power to feel more relaxed compared to that which isn’t. let the kid feel loved and pampered. play on the bed and kiss him goodnight, make the kid feel specially taken care of and loved. you will see the magic happening when the kid sleeps peacefully and for a longer time. you will see the kid smile at you when you see him first thing in the morning. [ no kidding with all the kids i just mentioned] :p

love has no substitute

love has no substitute

the day my kid sleeps happy and loved he sleeps for an hour more than usual. yelling at your kids to sleep or getting angry because the child wants to jump a little more on the bed will not only sleep a little less but even his sleeping patterns and his dreams are not weighing on a healthier side of the happiness scale. you don’t like to be yelled at, and nor do they!

8. bathe and clean

a tried tested recommended and favored by all mothers across the world. now that summer is approaching, a warm bath before bed and a lotion massage will do the trick. let the kid feel fresh and light and clean and happy and tidy and relaxed! the pretty smell of the lotion will also make you want to cuddle next to the kid.

D

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a few kisses and a fresh nightsuit, a bed time story or a hymn, do whatever favors you both and the kid will sleep with a smile without creating any fuss.

“The only love that I really believe in is a mother’s love for her children.”
― Karl Lagerfeld

let me know if you have any interesting and experienced ways to putting your kids to bed early or sleep till late.
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lots of wishes and good luck on these.
love,
Kunj

then and now- motherhood after a year

my son came just when the new financial year started last year… its been one full year since then and so much has happened. so much usually happens in the initial year of a new born and then after it slows down and you get back on track to your old life and try to pick up from where you left before you had the kid … nice thought but again ; by the time u go and try to pick up things from where u left you are either too drained from all that mommy work you have done all these years or you are just too lost and all grown up and nothing fits in . i visited the radio station a few days back as a guest and recorded a 2 minute capsule for mother’s day.. i just wasn’t excited to see the studio, the console the mike and the wonderful always pumping energy in the orator- a playlist. nothing attracted me. which was quite a shock initially. but now i have grown out of the radio love i had worked for 5 years and my only world revolved around my son.

a lot has changed in this year. my romance with PG depends on what time D falls asleep in his crib rather then when we want it to happen. our sunday dinner dates have changed to ‘taking D out to a play area and toyrides gaming’ date. i am always into loose outfits even after a year because i feel D may need breastfeeding anytime. he is in his last stage of weaning but still the mother in me wants him to take feeds as long as he wants… psychology studies says a kid can take feeding until he is 5 years old and a mother should not be ashamed to do so… umm… yes; i am kinda ready but certainly not for 5 years. i am ready to take the challenge and test myself for the whole of this year! i plan to breastfeed D till he 18-19 months old and i am not ashamed to talk about it on a public front. why should i ?? its not a crime, is it? i am infact helping my kid grow up on the most nutritious food available for him and i am proud of the fact that i can BREASTFEED, unlike a lot of women i know who has hardly done do for a month or just until the child starts weaning because of their medical issues or career opportunities they don’t want to miss just because they have a child.

a lot has changed over the year. i know not what movies release every friday until and unless i get to peek into the sunday reviews section in the newspaper and that is only possible if he is playing away somewhere or sleeping that i get the chance to read through the daily rug-mug and headlines. but i do know the complete lyrics of atleast 30 odd poems/nursery rhymes. yes its true for all mothers across the country and around the globe. they suddenly fall in love with all animated cartoons and movies and seem to enjoy and understand it just as much as the kids do.

a lot has changed over the last year. i can now change a diaper and wipe a smelly bum at 1 30am. i can now cook 3 different meals at the same time while keeping one eye on the tv serial and another on my son playing with his piano loud and clear and yet smile at the joke jethalal cracks and perfectly add in the masala to the curry. i am no doubt the super mom in my life. the only thing i cannot do is fly up in the sky! who even wants to fly if they live in a polluted stuffy and hot environ of Ahmedabad??
yea. so to conclude. i am my own supermom. and i can clean a stain on the rug and differentiate between the yellow color on the bedspread being mango or potty! i was not born a genius but the moment i delivered in that labor room last year enlightened me with sudden and more wisdom than i ever thought i could have.

a lot more has changed since a year but i take rest now and end this blog for i wish to make sure he has his food right and he sleeps right and there is a good burp right before he dozes off for a few hours.

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thank you for listening to me. a mom always wants to be listened to than to be controlled or advised.. most of the times 🙂
cheers!

Kunj Ganatra