been there done that !
and shitting a 3 kg pumpkin means lots of hard word and after that hard works comes all the rewards- watching him sleep in my arms, his small little pink hands and for me??
—-The confinement begins!!!
The spice of life has anyways vanished just 3 days after childbirth… With all the potty, cranky cries, sleepless nights, innumerable pee-s and trying to fit into old clothes which is still not happening even after the baby is out!!
Lots of it happening but this all slowly seeps into your daily life… What doesn’t is the fact that you cannot drink and eat normal food and water for 40 more days.
The confinement period!
40 days of staying at home, and recovering from the muscle straining, tiring, emotional and painful delivery process…
Whether vaginal or c-sec stitches are inevitable and it takes a woman some time to recover from the pain. It may be 10 or 15 days- depends on how well the mother is coping with it.
At 40 days today, I have wrapped up to get out in the real world to breath some outside air.
One isn’t even allowed to go out unless a check up with the gynec is scheduled within these days. I had mine scheduled once but My doc’s clinic was just a 5min drive which means I hardly had a good view of the city…
Anyways, that doesn’t matter much.
Check this link for a better idea of how to deal with confinement period, also it may answer dozens of your questions in terms of food, travel, b-feeding, exercising, and dealing with the new life as a momma (in case this is your first time like mine).
What is more important is how you deal with it.
and how others around you make you feel about it… this is no prison term that you arent allowed to move out of your room…
this is also not house arrest where you arent allowed to sneak out for a short drive as a relaxation chime with you hubby once in a while… motherhood can be exhausting and these 40 days are for you to feel better about your new baby , your new body, your new life and specially to give you time to adjust with the whole new phase of life…
its not easy for every woman to behave normal and have just the right start with everything after the baby is born.. some may have trouble adjusting with sleep, some with b-feeding, some with the new routine, some having trouble attending guests and baby at the same time!! these 40 days help you get back to the same energy and also teaches you how to accommodate the me-time and baby-time in a single day.
we indians are very lucky we have this ‘go to mom’s home for delivery’ ritual… there is no bigger help than a mother! she has been one half of her life and is always your biggest emotional and physical support… of course your husband is always there but an experienced mother is always the best thing to have next to you. to teach you and guide you and help you at the weakest hours!
i have had a great time learning things from my mother.. she would teach me things and then pour in anecdotes of my childhood and i would smile even when i am struggling while learning.
and she cooks all the right food for me- brinjal, gourds, bajri, milk products, lentils… all stuff that is easily digestible… that my son can digest well too… u know, at the end my milk produce is all what i eat. anything that is gaseous is also not good… anything that is chilled is not good… anything with lots of cocoa in it is not good too..
that are too many things to take care of…
eat lots of food… like i said here.
eat lots of fruit
rest well … as much as you can!
eat a lot of coconut
have lots of milk and milk products..
have protein powder (mamma and baby kinds)
and feel happy… yes! thats the main thing.. feel happy…